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Friday, October 25, 2013
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Workplace Bullying - It Happened to Me - Don't Let It Happen to You
I am privileged to work for a Government Contractor (“GC”) with
a zero tolerance regarding Work Place Bullying, but that was not always the
case.
I told the officer what happened and that I emailed requests to the HR Manager for a box. Needless to say, I received a pre-paid box. Even after I left, they harassed me!
I was in fact a victim to this indentured servant fad when I
worked for another GC that supported a large government agency who required a television
crew for their studio headquartered in Washington, DC.
This agency can fly people to the moon but did not want a
black woman Supervising Producer working in their studio!
The point of contact, government employee, Mr. Brown told
our Program Manager not to hire black women, and he so arrogantly defied the
federal law, that he walked into an interview with one of the candidates (at
the government site) and immediately retreated without so much as a hello.
The candidate, of course, called me immediately to ask if
Mr. Brown had an issue with women, and because he is also African American, she
did not consider the possibility that his issue was also her skin color.
The Human Resource Manager (now HR Director) and I advised
the President of the company about the flagrant discrimination that our PM shared
with us in a proposal meeting. The
President told me (in private), however, that there was a misunderstanding;
even though, the entire proposal team heard the remarkable fiasco.
I began to feel the consequence of trying to protect the
company from any lawsuit caused by the government.
During this same timeframe, that same GC underwent an
investigation with the Department of Labor (“DOL”).
Management’s answer was to “get rid of the problem” per the
HR Manager, so she began an “investigation” where she was both harassing
and belligerent to the employees questioned.
The problem was not the people they wanted to terminate, but
management itself, so I told both employees what to do – write what happened
and get email backup. The one who
listened kept his job – until they got rid of me. The other, they fired immediately.
Soon after, the IT Manager was on the chopping block. This I knew because I was tasked with finding
his replacement. He came to me for
help.
I did not confirm nor deny my colleague’s questions, but I
did tell him to speak with the President because I witnessed the HR Manager's disgraceful interrogation
in there “fact finding” meeting that the employee scheduled to submit a harassment
/ discrimination claim.
That’s when management decided to turn up the workplace bullying!
The HR Manager began to yell at me in meetings for no good
reason, and she did this to no one else.
She began to mark my time in and out and threatened to write me up, even
though, I was not the one who was always late in the department.
Employees became replete with anxiety and continued to ask
for my advice, but now I was afraid to give it.
I’d already complained enough:
1.
The IT Director only wanted Indians in his
department – no Asians and no Muslims
2.
The Engineering Director didn’t want to hire a
black candidate who was qualified because “We couldn’t put someone with
dreadlocks in front of the client.”
3.
The CTE didn’t want to hire a fully qualified black
candidate with a CCNP because “we have to think about him being in front of the
client,” and he didn’t want to hire a Spanish candidate with a CCIO – highest CISCO
certification because “he had an accent.”
When I brought up these injustices, which caused me enormous
stress and induced depression, the bullying only got worse, and a co-worker
advised me to lay low because I was now on the chopping block.
The President started calling impromptu meetings and
expressed his irritation that I had not filled positions, for which I later
learned, where not even approved or funded.
It didn’t matter that I found qualified candidates within a
substantially low salary range, and that his management staff was the cause for
the delay in hiring due to their own prejudices.
The President even bashed me for not doing someone else’s
job – requesting a contract modification of the Aerospace contract.
That’s when I got a harebrained idea to write a review and
post it to Glassdoor. Lesson
learned! This would later be used
against me in a mediation session with the Human Rights Commission (“HRC”).
The day had finally come when I knew enough was enough.
I called out sick the day after my boss showed her ranging-maniac
side. That day she sent an email to tell
me if I was sick then I “didn’t need to be working from home,” and that she
wanted to talk to me about taking off the next day every time we had a
disagreement.
I’m a grown woman and to have another grown woman yelling at
me like she lost her mind was too much! But
that’s not why I took off. I was sick
and entitled to take sick leave, which is what I emailed her, adding that I
thought it was ridiculous for her to harass me about taking a day off.
Well, I ended up taking a week off, as I was sick as a dog,
and when I came back to work, my boss said that she wanted to meet with
me.
She was irate regarding the email I sent her and even more
displeased that I “almost hired a Greencard” when she specifically told me not
to.
Telling my boss that I never interviewed the candidate, but
I asked for a background check because the candidate told me some personal
information, and I didn’t want to illegally disqualify him, was probably not
the smartest thing I’ve done.
Telling her that the President of the company and the IT
Director assured me that the Web Developer would be working on house projects
and would not need a clearance, so I could hire someone with a Greencard, wasn’t
bright either.
But telling her that she knew it was against the law to
discriminate on the grounds of national origin was far worse.
After five years of receiving exceptional performance
raises, bonuses and great evaluations, I got my walking papers.
A few weeks later, I received a phone call from the Fairfax
County Police Department about the return of the GC’s computer, even after, I’d
repeatedly asked the HR Manager (via email) for the company to ship a prepaid
box.I told the officer what happened and that I emailed requests to the HR Manager for a box. Needless to say, I received a pre-paid box. Even after I left, they harassed me!
I filed a complaint with every agency I could think of.
HRC had the case the longest, almost an entire year, and the
investigator Ms. Betz said today, “We’re backlogged and won’t get to the case
until sometime next year.”
I filed a complaint with the Aerospace agency, and was told
by the EEOC attorney, Ms. Danette Mincey that “It is not our practice nor is it
appropriate for us to provide a status on the progress of an investigation.”
How on earth can there be justice if there’s not enough staff
to research the claims!
Needless to say, the GC (still) won the re-compete, and the government employee is still at the
agency.
A few weeks after I left, the GC got rid of many of the
people that I was protecting when I was there.
Together we filed a complaint with the Department of Labor, but I have
not heard a single peep from them.
I went to an attorney who said I had a case – Wrongful Termination
and Retaliation. I’d begun to do the legwork
and research but fell into a greater depression from all the awful memories and
blatant injustice the GC caused me, so I had to simply walk away.
A year later, I’m finally getting back on my feet
emotionally, and it’s my hope that in another year, I’ll be finally stable and
will be vindicated with justice. But, I
expect nothing of course.
I read an article about Workplace Bullying and the memories
came flooding back. Though, I’m afraid
of what this story will do to my career, this is the way that I am freeing
myself from an ugly nightmare.
Learn from my mistakes and don’t let workplace bullying
happen to you.
In conclusion, I want to express my sincere apologies to:
Mahdy, Carlton, Geroge and Faisal. I apologize
for the retaliation you experienced because of me.
Please feel free to comment or post your story regarding
Workplace Bullying. Please also freely
post suggestions on how to deter workplace bullying.Wednesday, September 18, 2013
Warning and Advice for New Homebuyers Moving Into A Newly Developed Community!
Don’t feel like your dream home has turned into a
nightmare. Follow some simple advice to
avoid senseless irritation.
1.
Make sure you find out the deadline of turning
in your punch list, and turn it in before the deadline and copy your HOA. (You want your HOA to know that there are
issues that need to be resolved so the developer feels obligated to address
those issues and fix them before the developer convinces the HOA to accept the
community.)
2.
Look at your plat (small plan of your lot), and
verify that all trees are planted AND are still alive. Everyone is trying to save a buck or two, so
don’t get surprised to learn that your Virginia Pine is dead as a doorknob. Also, if there are a lot of dead trees in your
neighborhood, the developer is REQUIRED to replace them (if the HOA has not
accepted the community).
3. Find the contact information for the county and Department
of Transportation inspectors as well as the bond department. Land Developers get bonded by the state and
county to make improvements to the land per approved plans. Having this information is helpful because sometimes
Land Developers will treat you like a dog unless you’re barking up the right
tree.
4. If your street has not been accepted by the
Department of Transportation, make sure your HOA has contracted a snow removal
company. If not, you may find yourself
shoveling your street!
5. Before you spend money on outside improvements
(i.e. concrete driveway or monumental mail-box), make sure those improvements
are approved by the county AND Department of Transportation. If the roads have not been accepted, and your
improvement is not approved by the GOV, the developer could remove your costly
improvement; and they wouldn’t be obligated to reimbursement you, but many
developers will if they desperately need to get off of bond.
6. If you have water puddles in your yard, you may
have a grading issue. Request that the
developer fix the issue in writing and send a copy to your HOA, the county and
the Department of Transportation.
7. If your HOA has a pond, request that the HOA
have the builder install an irrigation system so that still water will not
attract pesky mosquitoes and a film of green algae.
8. Call the county to find out when the developer’s
bond expires, so you can use this as leverage to get your punch list resolved
expediently.
9.
If your community remains on bond for a year
after construction, there’s a reason, so use this to your advantage to possibly
negotiate freebees. If enough people
complain to the government, a developer may not be able to renew their bond,
and they would rather pay a couple thousand dollars in improvements than to
lose millions in a defaulted surety.
10.
Enjoy your new home!
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